Happy Friday! I hope you have a great, relaxing weekend. Now that we’re back in school, I am always so happy when we get to the weekend.
Today I am so excited to share my review of Love-Centered Parenting: The No-Fail Guide to Launching Your Kids by Crystal Paine. I was first introduced to Crystal when I listened to her on an episode of the 3 in 30 podcast — one of the only podcasts I listen to with some regularity. I loved Crystal’s openness, strength, and beautiful journey to finding love and belonging.
- I don’t read a lot of parenting books. But the ones that I have read have changed the way I parent. I love having these in my home to reference when I feel overwhelmed, stressed, or ashamed of my parenting. This is a book that I immediately bought after finishing it because I know I will be back in it’s pages for inspiration time and agian.
- I read this as an ebook on my Libby app and found it pretty easy to navigate. I am excited to look more at the appendix in my newly purchased hard copy of the book and to reread some of my favorite sections.
According to Goodreads, “Do you worry that you’re messing up your kids? Do you get stressed when you think about their futures? New York Times bestselling author Crystal Paine knows how you feel. A mom of four, Crystal has struggled with anxiety over parenting. She wanted to parent with grace, instead of a system of rules where kids are expected to do all the right things. She wanted to be a safe place for her children, and she definitely didn’t want to be remembered as the sort of mom who yelled, wounded her kids with words, or worse, cared more about her reputation than her kids’ hearts.
In this book, Crystal shares the life-changing lessons that God has been teaching her about raising kids with love and grace. In Love-Centered Parenting, Crystal will…
– reveal the no-fail secret to launching your kids
– uncover the root of why we often feel so frustrated and irritated with our kids
– share the four most important choices we can make as parents
– give you the tools to keep going when you want to give up
– help you get your kids to talk to you
It is possible to parent from a place of freedom and rest, giving your kids what they truly need to thrive in this world.”
I loved the way Crystal focuses on building our relationship with ourselves before we focus on our parenting. Her whole premise is centered on the idea that if we believe we are loved unconditionally by our Heavenly Father, we can love our kids unconditionally as well. Her journey to understand her unconditional worth as a child of God was beautiful and very relatable. I love the idea that we need to focus on love — love of self, love of others, love of our kids and love of God. If we start from a place of love, we can build such beautiful relationships with our kids.
This book is applicable to my life in so many ways and I appreciated the variety of relatable topics Crystal discusses. She breaks the book down into chapters with different themes. But she doesn’t give us a list of things to do as parents that will magically make us better parents. She offers personal experiences and many insights into each of her takeaways. They are open ended enough to mold and connect them to our individual experiences as readers. I loved the different chapters about important topics like lean in and love, cultivating humility, learn to listen, and learn to let go. They all offered great concrete ideas for how to cultivate that characteristic in your parenthood. Not all at once (or perfectly) but how to go on the journey to be a more love-centered parent and build lasting and meaningful relationships with your kids. I highlighted a lot of quotes because I just loved how Crystal said so many things.
I loved her personal stories as well because it makes Crystal more relatable. She isn’t a perfect parent and she owns her mistakes and hardships with grace and humility. I admired her Crystal is very open about her own journey to love-centered parenting and I connected with her a lot. Most of all, I really appreciated her thoughts about parenting for our kids versus parenting for our reputation. I totally do that! It was nice to feel that I am not alone as a parent and that we can all be on a journey to be love-centered parents. I find myself remembering Crystal’s stories and anecdotes while I’m parenting throughout the day. I loved how the book ended and how much hope her story has for the future.
I really needed this book and am so glad to have read it. While it made a big impact on me and my parenting, I hope to continue to go back to Crystal’s ideas so I can become a more love-centered parent. This type of book is great to read once, but I think it can have a much bigger impact if we return to it over and over. A fantastic parenting book that I am glad to have read!
What are some of your favorite parenting books?
What books do you return to again and again?